a christmas memory

This picture of my mother, Sharon, and her sister Arlene is prominently displayed every holiday season. It was taken around 1944 on a visit to Chicago to see the holiday decorations. In her own words, my mother describes the day this picture was taken, a story we hadn’t heard before.  …

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the gift of … socks?

When you’re a kid, there’s nothing worse than opening a pretty, wrapped box only to find socks. I mean, you know deep down that they’re under the tree because you got them last year, and the year before, and the year before that from your grandmother or your mom or, …

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one hour photo

Photos taken in Chicago on Tuesday, Dec. 11 between 2:30 pm and 3:30 pm.  The gift of noticing.  Click on any photo to view a slideshow of the images.

the gift of gab

Holiday preparation involves lots of idle time running errands, cooking, wrapping, traveling. Why not grab your headphones and put that time to good use?  The number of podcasts exploded in 2018. Today, listeners can choose from more than 550,000 shows with 18.1 million episodes in over 100 languages, and that’s …

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the gift of books

It’s Christmas Eve in Iceland and all through the house not a creature is stirring … because everybody’s reading. It’s a tradition called Jólabókaflóðið, or Yule book flood, where people gift each other books and spend Christmas Eve at home with family, reading.  Icelander or not, it’s a fact that …

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wish list

It’s just before Thanksgiving, 1972. I’m lying on the living room rug, propped up on my elbows, sunlight streaming through the window. My brother is next to me; we’re seven and nine, and we are psyched. Open on the floor in front of us is the Sears Christmas catalog, and …

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say cheese

Awkward holiday photos: we all have them. The kids didn’t smile, someone blinked, that tree branch no one noticed looks like it’s sprouting from dad’s head.  We say, go find those awkward photos today, pass them around, and give your families the gift of laughter. Because with the holidays ramping up …

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the gift of tradition

Much of what makes the holiday season special is wrapped up in tradition: the ritualization of an activity, a prayer, a family recipe that continues from year to year.  One of my favorite family traditions is the search for what we call Santa Notes. When my siblings and I were …

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the gift of giving back

When my kids were little, shopping for teachers’ gifts was an important part of our holiday preparation. Not only was a gift to my boys’ teachers a small token of our appreciation for all they did, but involving my kids in the shopping was a terrific way to teach them the importance of thanking the important people in their lives.

My kids are in college now, but I’ve found a way to continue to show our appreciation to public school teachers. Donors Choose is an organization with the mission to “make it easy for anyone to help a classroom in need, moving us closer to a nation where students in every community have the tools and experiences they need for a great education.”

The premise is simple: Educators from all over the country post wish lists for their classrooms on the Donors Choose website, and people donate money to help fund the projects. There are several ways to give: You can search in your geographic area or pledge support to specific subjects like math and science, or the arts; fund specific requests like books, food, computers or musical equipment; or sponsor specific age groups from pre-K through high school. Every dollar counts and no donation is too small.

To date, close to 32 million public school students have benefitted from more than $1.5 million in donations by almost 3.5 million supporters.

My own family joined the Donors Choose program this year, with each of us choosing our own project to support. If you’d like to do the same, you can spread the love and find a classroom to help here.

the gift of friends

Christmas came early this week to millions of “Friends” fans when Netflix announced it will stream the mega-popular series through 2019. The company had previously planned to drop the series from its lineup on Jan. 1, but the outcry from fans led Netflix to make the surprise deal.

That means there’s now plenty of time to binge-watch all 10 seasons of “Friends,” which is especially important if you have young adults in your family.

In the spirit of the season, mutterhood recently watched all 10 holiday episodes of “Friends,” and rated the best five below. Why do these stand out? Well, first of all they’re funny, but the best ones feature the entire ensemble and in many cases include a sweet twist – which is why streaming a few episodes while you’re, say, wrapping presents isn’t the worst approach to tackling a holiday task.

Here, in descending order, are our picks for the best episodes of holiday “Friends”:

No. 1: “The one one with the routine.” Season 6, episode 10. Monica and Ross fulfill a lifelong dream to dance on Dick Clark’s Rockin’ New Year’s Eve, and Joey shares a sweet moment with a new love. The dance sequence is hilarious.

No. 2: “The one with the holiday armadillo.” Season 7, episode 10. To explain Hanukkah to his son Ben, Ross first tries persuasion but ends up wearing an armadillo costume. The second half of the episode is the best, as is the secondary story about Phoebe buying Joey drums.

No. 3: “The one where Rachel quits.” Season 3, episode 10. Phoebe and Joey sell Christmas trees, Rachel quits Central Perk and Ross sells cookies for a young girl scout whose leg he’s responsible for breaking. The episode ends with a very sweet scene about Space Camp. 

No. 4: “The one with the monkey.” Season 1, episode 10. Remember Marcel the monkey? He makes his debut in the very first holiday episode, but that’s not the best part. Everyone is featured in this one: Joey gets demoted to Elf from Santa; Phoebe sings a Christmas song and meets Hank Azaria; and Monica hosts a New Year’s Eve party where the friends end up dateless but together. Again.

No. 5: “The one with the late Thanksgiving.” Season 10, episode 8. Technically not a Christmas episode, but still one of the better holiday ones. Chandler and Monica reluctantly host Thanksgiving but everybody’s late; Phoebe and Rachel enter Emma in a baby pageant; the Bings get a wonderful surprise. Lots of good feels.

Look for “Friends” on cable TV on TBS and on-demand. As for streaming services, Netflix is the only one that offers all 10 seasons.